Society’s main message for the modern day woman is build a career, meet a partner, fall in love, get married, buy a house, take time out of career to have some kids and maybe get a dog. But what if you have the career and even the house but you’re just not meeting anyone or you are meeting all the wrong types of ‘Ones’? What if, all your friends have managed to achieve this ‘two point four with the dog’ lifestyle and you’re left holding a microwave meal for one? Or on the flip-side, most of your friends are single and desperately looking for “THE ONE”. The latter may sound fun but if you’re in this situation you’ll know very well that constantly going out with people, whose main agenda is to use you as sounding board or prop in which they can look good for any and all men is NO FUN!! Yep, being a modern day singleton can
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Going out and meeting new people and even meeting friends can be really hard, especially when you have a full time career or job that takes up a lot of your time. Not having a significant other in this kind of situation can leave you feeling quite alone in the world. You may even have loads of things that you want to do but all involve that partner, that partner that you don’t have, so you end up waiting to start living. The combination of this loneliness and waiting can lead to serious feelings of desperation, frustration and even depression. The bottom line, being single can really suck the joy, fun and life out of your life if you let it.
3 Ways to steps out of hell…
Stop all the frantic nonsense you are doing right now, in the hopes that you will meet the love of your life, the speed dating, the clubbing, all of it. Now you’re probably thinking, “Isn’t the whole point of this to get out there and meet people”. Answer. Yes…… yes it is but when you are doing these things with the soul intention of meeting THE ONE and it doesn’t happen, this can lead to more feelings of depression and complete helplessness.
Also, if you’re not a clubber and your going out to clubs every night in the hopes that you will meet that perfect guy, it’s highly likely that you are going to meet lots of the wrong types of guys, with whom you have nothing in common with. Guess where this leads? Yep, you got it. Helplessness, depression, blah, blah, blah so let’s just stop all the extra curricular activities for the minute.
2) CHANGE YOUR FOCUS
Start by identifying all the things that are really important to you (aside from that perfect partner) and instead of thinking of all the things you can’t do because you don’t have a partner, start thinking of all the things you are FREE to do because you don’t have a partner. For example: travel the world, eat takeaway indefinitely, spending more quality time with loved one, etc
3) START LIVING
Take your finger off pause, stop waiting and start living. Now is the time to start doing all those things that are important to you and don’t necessarily include a partner. To those of you reading this and thinking “No but I want to wait”, take a look at your life, is this ‘waiting thing’ really serving you? What if you never meet him? What if God forbid you die tomorrow? You’re life is happening right now guys let’s get on with it.
Also living now will actually gives you more options and increases your chances of actually being happy that future relationship because when you finally meet that partner and he or she is not really up for travelling the world or eating pizza every night, you can be open to compromise without compromising yourself.
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There is much negativity associated with being a single woman, especially as you get older but when you are tempted to buy into all of that and start telling yourself that you’re undesirable or that you are not enough in some way, remember this
‘Being single isn’t a status, it’s a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and truly enjoy life, not grabbing at anything they can find but instead waiting for what they know they truly deserve’.
Live Boldly, Live Empowered, Live From The Inside, Out
Written by Angelena Lewis
Personal Empowerment Expert & Life Coach at LIVIN FOCUS